“Do not mock a pain that you haven’t endured.”- Unknown
Every single person we have ever encountered is either currently fighting a battle or has defeated a battle that no one knows about. Even if we are fighting the same battle, our experiences aren’t the same. Something that is a minor experience to someone may be the most traumatic thing another individual has ever went through. The thing we all have in common is everyone is just trying to make it to another day. Sometimes we are having to kick and claw our way out of the rabbit hole, and other times we are laughing and dancing on our journey. We have times that are joyous to go through, and there are times when getting out of bed is a triumph.
This holiday season, I have been especially aware to the things in our society that are considered “funny” or “normal” but could be so hurtful for any individual suffering. I saw Halloween costumes and t-shirts that mocked serious mental illnesses, and I heard stories of individual’s telling people to “get over” their anxiety and struggles surrounded seeing their family over the holidays and eating food at Thanksgiving.
Honestly, I was astonished. Partly at myself for not having this heightened of an awareness previously, but also because I am part of a society where this unfortunately exists. Are we so desensitized that we can’t stop to think about how this would make another individual feel? As I have said before, every single person has experienced something painful. I can say personally during my times of struggle, all I have wanted was to know that I was not alone and that I was going to make it through. And I know I’m not alone in that thinking. So why can we not offer that same respect to others? Because I guarantee if it was your loved one that was struggling and someone mocked it to you, your initial reaction would be to fight their words, educate them on how wrong they are, and be hurt by their lack of sensitivity to someone or something you care about. Because the thing that people forget the most is that no one just wakes up one day and says “I think I’m gonna develop an eating disorder, be depressed, or self-harm today.” Life, experiences, and situations shape us and there is always more to the story than what is shown on the surface.
Every time of the year, but especially during this holiday season, have compassion. Be aware of things that could be harmful to individuals and be proactive in helping your loved ones make it through. Don’t just tell them to “get over” whatever they are going through. Instead, be a listening ear to them and assist them in whatever way you are comfortable with. Because we have all been on the end of struggle, we know exactly what it is like to feel pain that is immense, and we should always have compassion for an individual experiencing pain.
-BrilliantlyAverage