“A person’s energy and the aura they give off never lies. Trust in that.”-Unknown
I like to refer to myself as a “realist” rather than admitting that I naturally look at things as a pessimist. I tend to state facts and don’t get my hopes up so that I do not get disappointed. I am not the person that is the “dreamer” and I don’t set unrealistic expectations for myself and others. This can be a good and bad thing. Yes, I don’t get disappointed and that is great, but I also lose some of the “magic” in life.
That is why 3 months ago I decided that I was going to become a different person. I started “A Year of Adventures” where a friend and I were going to do adrenaline adventures once a month (from someone who was never an adrenaline junkie before, I am now hooked). But the most important thing I am working on is changing my perspective.
What I have learned is that the first thought you think is what you have been “trained to think”, either by your upbringing, your influences, or what you have trained yourself to think over time, and your second thought is the thought you have control over. For example, I hate tomatoes. My first thought when someone mentions a tomato is, “That is disgusting and it better not be touching my food.” But now I am making sure I always include a positive, second thought, like “I wonder if anyone at the table loves tomatoes? I should offer them mine so they can have double tomatoes on their salad.”
Forcing myself to take on a positive perspective constantly, even though it goes against my natural thought process, has honestly been one of the best things I have done for myself. It is harder than you think it would be if you are wired like I am. But the other day, the most amazing thing happened. My first thought about something came out to be positive instead of negative. In that moment, I knew that I was changing for the better.
So I challenge anyone reading this to find something that pushes you to be more positive/a better version of yourself, and do it. You will be in awe of how much your thought process and everything around you changes when your perspective and thought process start to change.
-BrillantlyAverage